How do we educate a child?

First, the focus of children 0-6 years old is not “learning and painting”, but by understanding the methods of creative and the possibility of various materials to play materials and art cultivation of art and boldly express their ideas.EssenceBy following the laws of children’s development and growth, they slowly understand how to observe the real time of the so -called “beautiful” works “in the eyes of our adults.”Therefore, our activities are not painting lessons, but in the process of the process that adults and children will like it, art mothers have worked hard to accompany their children to play art together. Sometimes they feel too naughty and troublesome.The child who needs to be respected and protected at the stage

Second, children have absorbing mental minds at the age of 0 to 6. They absorb everything in the environment like a camera, so the environment of adults should be prepared for children.The environment is important.Even said: We protect the child’s body, and we must protect the children’s hearts.An adult’s joke, inadvertent language, may bring a different interpretation to the child’s brain. For children, we should live humblely …

Third, the best education is really a body education, not a storytelling

In the early stage of child, before the age of 6, children’s brain development was at the rapid development of the action period, and it was also the cerebellum part of the cerebellum that we usually said.Adults’ demonstrations through physical strength are the most vulnerable to children.At this age, the wrong education method is that adults have not moved, and the theory is a bunch of theories.

Action is a process of body body, and muscles are also memory. The way adults deal with things have a profound impact on children’s subconscious thinking.

Children’s logical reasoning thinking must be after eight years old, so young children use too many preaching ways to disrupt human life development rhythm.In my long -term contact observation, I found that parents’ theories one set of families can easily affect children’s original life temperament, or make children easily hesitate, become contradictory self -image, affect children’s choice ability, etc.Because those theories are not the thinking of children’s internalization to life, but a sound of interference.

Fourth, education serves three different people:

First, the quality improvement of education serves the quality of high -end families.Quality education cannot be popular. After the popularity of quality education, our society will lose a lot of workers.This is why elite education cannot be popularized, although it is very good and valuable.Elite education cultivates children’s free personality and the spirit of free thinking. As long as he has a free personality, he can think freely, and you will never slavery him.Therefore, you can’t cultivate too much.

Second: The second need for education in the future is to serve the needs of senior scientific and technological innovation talents, called high -end scientific and technological education.MIT -MIT, MIT, Stanford, and top scientific and technological talents trained at top universities such as the University of California.This is high -end science and technology education.If you do n’t say it, but batch training, and the requirements are high.

The third education is a public school in the name of education.In fact, it is really not education. It is actually a place in the mixed day. This is called popular education and mass education.

In fact, the whole process of school education in human life is only part of it.It is also part of the material environment and literati environment.Elite non -elites are not just one or two factors.

Fifth, respect the first weather types of each life, and give environmental protection and assistance to growth, it is enough!

“Sensitive period” refers to a period when children’s learning and training order is relatively easy and the sense of order development is relatively rapid. Generally, when the age of 2-4 years old, in this period, children have a strong demand for the order of things and gradually gradually gradually gradually and gradually gradually gradually gradually.Obtained and developed the adaptability of the space sequence of space or living habits.

Italian early childhood educator Mengtai Rully believes that there are two different types of order of children, one is “external”, that is, the “order experience” of his environment; one is “inner”, that is,”Awareness” of the relative positions of all parts and these parts.Although the two order is divided into types, the essence is similar. Only after being satisfied, the child will show peace and happiness, and otherwise they will cry uneasily.

The child’s “order experience” of the external environment is mainly manifested in the right place.Through observation, we can find interesting phenomena: When an item is placed in an inappropriate place and is discovered by a child, the child will put it in the place where it should be placed.Such as: a piece of soap is placed on the washbasin and not placed in a soap box. There must be young children to put the soap back into the soap box; a chair is placed in an inappropriate place, and a 2 -year -old child will suddenly pay attention to it.To it, and make it belong to the original place; a piece of item is not placed back to the original position, and there will be children who will find and the active animal return to the place … The child’s demand for “external order” is like nature given.A compass of human beings can better adapt to the world with the help of it.

The sensitivity to “inner order” is a kind of insight and instinct to lay the foundation for the formation of consciousness.Today, we can easily dominate our rationality, will, and muscles. A large part is the result of childhood adapting to this world.However, when this sensitivity is also destroyed, once the child is hindered, the child will feel a sense of security, anxiety and temper.For example, in the book “The Secret of Childhood”, Montessori gave an example. When the babysitter used a different way to give the child a bath, the child would be mood.Children who are used to small beds with railing will cry on the big bed because of fear.

“We are learned from experience that when educating children, we must not be ranked among the best. On the contrary, emphasizing its opposite side, that is, emphasizing the best or exclusive to be the best way.Many are unattended. I believe everyone has seen enough. In short, whether it is from a macro historical perspective or from a micro personal experience, happiness is not just among the best or out of place, but the idea of only involving the first to children for children is the first.It will make it one -sided and extreme, especially the opportunity to lose the opportunity to establish friendly partnership with others.

If our education only pays attention to encouraging children to fight for first, then this education method will definitely cause quite a lot of bad consequences.Children only pay attention to themselves, and worry about whether others will surpass themselves every day is one of them. The envy, jealousy, and hate of their companions are hidden in the heart of such children.Heart, worried that his status would be threatened, so he was desperate to surpass everyone like an accelerator.It will be completely exposed in life, especially in some details of life. For example, he always likes to walk in front of the team and cannot tolerate anyone in front of himself. Of course, if you have never learned how to follow people’s various performances,To judge its mind, then you usually don’t easily notice these details of life.”

Six, the real education is a warm life companion every day, the sharing of joy, the encouragement of the loss, the impact of the lifestyle, the example for example, the awakening of another soul to another soul.The guardian of life to another life.

Education is,

Do not run with others,

Can also reach the end;

Education is,

Don’t worry,

Grow up slowly;

Education is,

Waste time in

Beautiful things;

Education is,

Every different child

There are unique colors;

Education is,

You go further

I will applaud and cheer for you;

Education is,

You bow your head and kiss a little flower,

She also bent over to talk to flowers;

Education is,

If you have edges and horns,

Be sure to shine;

Education is,

Lead the snail to take a walk;

Education is,

Don’t label your child.

Seventh, the biggest misunderstanding of education is: invested a large amount of money to pile up resources for children, all learning piano, dancing, English, painting, speeches, etc. In fact, these are all things at the technical level.Surgery.

First, a person has no fear and expectations, and the heart is free.Before I had too much expectations and fear, I had different minds, split my mind and mind, confused my heart, and confused outside.Through the Lingnuo alchemy, the emotions are getting thinner and more and more powerful.I’m not afraid of my husband’s moody, nor is it afraid that my husband complains that I will not educate the child. I am not afraid that my son will be scolded by the husband, nor is it afraid that my son will be hurt after being scolded.It’s so easy to be so comfortable!

Second, love does not increase, and the problem will not change.At first I used the way of scolding preaching to hope that the child would change, there was no effect, and the parent -child relationship was very stiff.Later, because my son went to do my homework, I link to my childhood teenager. I have distressed, understand, allow, embrace and love for my inner children.Manman, I also have a distress, understanding, acceptance, and love for my son.The biggest love is allowing and acceptance. When I really accept and allow my son to feel from my heart, my son can feel it. His dad first permitted and accepted him.His son was allowed and accepted by his parents. His psychological nutrition was supplemented. As soon as his dad scared, he had the power to go to school.(He said, if he doesn’t want to go to school and kill him, he will not go.)

Third. I am fine, everything is fine.Because through alchemy, when I love myself, I can love my husband. When my husband gets my love, he can hinder his son.His son got my love, and he could get to his dad.This is the so -called quietness.

eight.Strict punishment of education

First, resentment, “This is unfair! I can’t believe adults!”

Second, revenge, “They won this time, but I will pull it back!”

Third, the rebellion “I want to do it to prove that I don’t have to do it according to their requirements.”

Fourth, retreat

Fifth, sneaky, “I will never let him catch it next time.”

Sixth, inferiority “I am a bad child

In short: What really let the child win is: the child’s strong will, the self -confidence, independent thinking of self, independence, and the correct understanding of society and human nature.